Sex On The First Date?

     So the question is this, Is there anything inherently wrong with having sex on the first date? Regardless of whether or not you've known the person for a while or none at all.
     Now in order to have a launching point we will have to clarify somethings. Mainly What in the basest sense of the word is "Dating" and do people still partake in this undertaking?

What Is Dating?

     “Dating” means different things to different people, particularly across generations. It can be defined as two people in an intimate relationship [not necessarily sexual]. It may be serious or casual, straight or gay, committed or open, short-term or long-term. It can also be interpreted as a stage of sexual selection in humans whereby two people meet socially, possibly as friends or possibly with the aim of each assessing the other's suitability as a partner in an intimate relationship or marriage. In its simplest terms it can be a form of courtship consisting of social activities done by the couple. Get it? Got It? Good. 

Do People Still Go On Dates?

     Now this is the real conundrum. Does anyone really "Date" anymore? As stated above dating doesn't have to be taking someone out to some high class, expensive place, you can go an a date literally anywhere. Therein however lies the trick. Lets take for instance the "Netflix and Chill" phenomenon that's taken the place by storm a few months now. In essence if you get a call [or a text if you want to be fancy] asking if you want to netflix and chill, that's basically asking you if you want to come over [or if the person can come over either one works] and have sex. However its used in such an innocent way that many people think its a date.. per say. You see the point here?


     Over the past few years, many social observers have noted that young adults are dating less. Instead, dating is being replaced by “hanging out” with members of the opposite sex. Dating and hanging out are two completely different things.

Hanging out consists of people getting together in groups and doing stuff together. It could be going to a club, a restaurant, or just staying home and playing Wii. The atmosphere is relaxed and relations among opposite sexes never rises above the level of friendship (or friends with benefits). There is nothing wrong with hanging out, but it is not a replacement for dating.

Dating and hanging out are two completely different things.

First Date? Sex? 

     So with all that out of the way the question arises; Is there anything inherently wrong with having sex on a first date? In my personal opinion no and I will give my reasoning in a second. However I asked the question on Facebook and I got a few responses.

Onella Says:
I don't think a lot of people date ow so the answer to your question would most likely begin yes. Most people go watch a movie and before the night is over have to at least kiss. That's not the case for me I try to draw out that instance as long as possible but most people I hear do. Some end up being BF's/GF's for a while.
Abigail says:
     Ntn no wrong wid it fe mi! From me really like the person an we go pon a one date u done know seh we a get closer feelings get stronger body heated an all these things... A so it set fe me, don't get mi wrong now my feelings ave to well up deh fa the person
Patois left in place for...authenticity? :)

     I would have liked more in depth answers but my friends list don't enjoy sharing their thoughts on matters [I kid I kid]. Anyway my take on it is quite simple. Now as I stated I find no problem with it and the reason is this. Most females are against it [and that's fine! You do you booboo!] and the reason a majority of them are is because they believe that's all the male really want. He wants to have sex with you and then drop you. Right? In most cases this is true but not all. But here's the kicker! If that man wants NOTHING but your cookie then why do you think you can make him change by making him wait? You yourself know you want to have sex with him, he knows that's all he wants. So you making him wait is only delaying the inevitable! Once you've both done your due time and you finally give in, he gets his sex and he IS going to leave. Because that's what he was after! SO whether or not you have sex now or later the eventual outcome will always be the same. Sure he might stick around for a few more sessions but regardless he is going to leave. Now am I saying you should go out on all your first dates and have sex? No not at all. However you should be mindful that hoping to change someone by making them wait is only hurting you in the long run because you are the one who has aspiring dreams of change. That's my two cents on the matter...


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