The Secret Art: Foreplay and Sex

     Foreplay in its most basic sense is a precursor to sex.  It is in essence a series of emotional and physical connections between two (or more) people to boost sexual arousal and initiate the act of sex. These can include (but are not limited to); Kissing, Cuddling, Fondling, Hugging, Undressing and even Oral Sex. Foreplay is also known to lower sexual inhibitions. So to sum it up, Foreplay is the setting of the mood for sex. Clear??? Good, lets move on.

Importance of Foreplay?

     Now it is a well known fact that women tend to more often than not outlast males when it comes to sex. Males however can be ready to have sex in an instant. This is a fair trade off I believe. Women are more like an engine on a very cold day...they need to warm up a bit before they start to run properly. No fault with the males however it is simply due to the ways in which the female body vastly differ from the males. Due to this fact however, women are mostly left unsatisfied when it comes to sex. Note that I said mostly, meaning not all. It is in this case most women will seek to get their "high" from other means. Most time this high is received from other women  So when it comes to foreplay with the woman on the receiving end, what we as males are trying to do is basically kick her sex drive into a higher gear before taking part in the actual act of sex. In so doing, you enable her to achieve the heights of her pleasure before or in sync with yourself. It is generally accepted then, that you never can have too much foreplay in any sexual session, in fact the more foreplay you have the longer you tend to last sexually.

Better Sex.....How?

     Now I am no expert in this field but I am about to lay down a few do's and dont's when it comes down to it. Most hot blooded males as soon as they are given the green light by a female when it comes to sex, usually head towards her G-Spots on the first move... That's a big no-no...unless of course you're just there for a quickie in which case go for it. If however, you are going to be at it for a while you might want to hold off on that for a bit. What you should do first of all is touch her everywhere EXCEPT for her hot spots, Tease her for a bit. For instance start running your hands lightly over her arms just barely touching the hairs on her skin. While you're bringing your hands back up gently brush the sides of her breasts and make her quiver. You can also run your hands along her inner thighs just the same as with her hands, this time however, linger in her crotch area for a few minutes, don't touch it just play around in the general area and then move away once she starts getting hot and bothered. For everyone of her hot spots, there is a way for you to tease her without touching her there. It is a sure fire way to get her completely turned on. 

     

     Anticipation is one of your best friends when it comes to foreplay. If she is wondering every time that your hands wander to the top of her pants or the bottom of her shirt if this will be the time you will start to undress her, then she is sure to be lying on pins and needles, which will heighten her senses, making all subsequent touches that much more sensual. Don't spend too much time in one spot, keep it moving. If you have found a great spot that the woman enjoys a lot, that is great, just break up the attention you give to that spot by moving back and forth between that spot to others. Spending too much time on one spot on her body may start to make her bored. Another thing you may do good to remember is that most women tend to enjoy when the man Takes Control of the situation. Tell her what you want her to do, what position to go into etc. Don't be forceful however, just be dominant. Dirty Talk is accepted as well. While undressing her, lean close and whisper into her ears all the things you are going to do to her. This can tie in with anticipation and completely turn her out. Another thing you may want to try is maintaining a Steady Eye Contact. Doing so will bring across the fact that you know what you are doing and you know what you want and you are daring her to stop you. No this is not a rape tactic its general knowledge...or at least it should be.

Final Words

     Don't be afraid to try something new and different. Trying something new sexually is good for you and good for your relationship. Some desire problems stem from sexual boredom and the prescription is sexual risk. You don't have to do something that you find distasteful but when was the last time you tried initiating, experimenting with a new position, different lighting such as candlelight or using a sexual aid (toy) or lubricant.Come out of the comfort zone. Even trying to bring each other to orgasm during foreplay instead of during intercourse could be a nice change. You could send each other sexual pictures while at work. Just knowing that they are looking at your naked body and have to wait to touch you is a thrilling feeling. Also if you don't even try new things don't have sex the same way all the time. Try you're regular techniques but remember to mix it up once in a while. Don't follow the same pattern over and over again. Be brave today, tonight or whenever you are reading this and try something new, it just might stimulate your minds as well as your bodies. I promise you wont regret it. Enjoy!

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